Can Dad go away so long:
Thank you for your suggestions. I can't think of any loving father I know who would leave his only child for six months. So needless to say he would not want her to go with him. As for organising phone contact…gulp….I am certain that the first thing he would say to that would be "don't tell me what to do!" No I'm sure he WILL phone her AND miss her desperately, make lots of very genuine promises….until he returns. Then the reality of his personality disorder kicks in and he flees back to his comfort zone. Very very sad indeed. But I DO agree with the courts for once…..contact with ones child IS a privilege…..and one that I enjoy greatly. This site has reinforced that for me.