The matter is being put forward by the NSW Police, when we had our hearing she didn't turn up to court, she says that she was advised that the hearing date was on 16th Nov, but date was set aside for 16th July and she did a no show. I believe this has more to do with her getting her Permanent Visa, some Domestic Violence Provision thru Immigration, but I don't want to assume that, but everything is pointing in that direction. No i'm not a violent or abusive person, I believe we had a lot of friction and frustration after we got married and the pressure of paying for everything, arguments happened which I thought are normally in any relationship. New date has been set for 26th Oct but no interim was put in place. I don't really understand why myself, her support base has advised her that an ADVO has worked for them, but it really hasn't cause most of them are in torn up marriages. Yes I believe it would change our marriage and thats why have been looking for solutions. I'm also taking into account she is suffering from mental trauma from her past in Spain and Greece. I have tried every avenue available to reconcile with mediation requests. Seeing a marriage counsellor on my own for the last 2 months, have sent emails requesting for her to attend but to no avail. No children involved. So undertakings isn't a good idea. I haven't been able to talk to her for 2 months and the only point of contact is with one of her friends that hates men due to her violent past relationships, its like i've been hitting my head against brick wall.