Help - My ex keeps brain washing my child on contact visit and refuses to send him back:
Thank you. Unfortunatley his father is a ladies man and always has been my son has hated him for the abondement and I get the same thing that he struggles at school due to not having a dad. Your help is appreciated. Thanks. I know my son so well and if his father really wanted him why did it take him two years to realise this and wait till he had a girlfriend to help him out? It is hard and thanks again
Help - My ex keeps brain washing my child on contact visit and refuses to send him back
I have a family law court order, that states my son live with me, and even at the age of 14 years, I still have to abide by it, but his father never does. My main concern is that everytime I send him on a plane for contact holidays, he comes home absolutely brain washed and hates me, as he has people in his ears, saying bad things about me. He gets told from his father on contact visits that HE DOESN'T HAVE TO GO BACK TO MUM, & he can stay here and have money, rather than him pay me the maintenance.
After the first week then my son refuses to talk to me, and all of a sudden hates me, then I have no contact and get all the threats and worries that they will not return him, as they have this time. I have told my son he must return home, and the things he has been told he should not be involved with.
He said that his father told him he doesn't have to come home, and that he can stay there… what a situation. I do the right thing and send my son up there to him as ordered, then I get left with the worry and torment and abuse from my son, that he wont return to me.
Isn't it funny how real every day life is different to holidays. Can partners do this to children?; how do I stop him from turning my son against me at every contact visit, and this time I dont even know if he will be on the plane again, as he states he can stay and will be, as all of a sudden he hates me, and we have always had the best relationship and were the only ones left to look after each other, when my husband just drove out of us, and out of the town we lived. If he doesn't return what can I do? How do I stop my son from listening to them and hating his mother from lies and bribary?
I cannot and will not re send him, If I get him back this time. I cannot and will not go thru this again - Some one out there please give me some guidance…. Help! Thanks