Changing orders by breeching them:
I have a 20 year old daughter who I haven't seen for 15 years because the ex moved to the other side of Australia. I took the advice people gave me then to wait till she gets older. What a load of garbage. And not only that, I missed all the firsts that can never be replaced (birthdays, special events, life in general). Now the only time she calls is if she wants money!
About fighting the ex (she originally wanted me to have supervised care), I would rather walk in front of a train than stop trying to get back what the court granted me. I have to send my children back to the ex crying because they want to spend more time with me.
I take it you are a woman. I could be wrong, but you tell me why should my children and I suffer just because my ex got greedy and left when she received an $80,000 inheritance and then was awarded 72% of the property. Easy money for her!
So you say walk away and hope they understand later why their father didn't want to fight to see them (my ex has already used the fact I didn't fight to see my other daughter, hoping they would do what you suggest). If that is your advice then you are on another planet, or like I said a woman.
I have a great relationship with my children, as the family report states, and even in the last court hearing because she breeched the orders and wanted to get on the good side of the judge states what a great father I am. This is after 4 years of saying and stating I was the biggest arseh0le out, falsely claiming abuse, the works.
So according to you I should say "Oh this isn't fair. I will go hide in the corner till the children get older and say sorry 'I didn't try to see you because the system isn't fair'."