I have been separated for 4 years now and have twice tried to do FDR. Gave up and am having one last crack at writing parenting orders for the ex to look at and maybe agree to. I have my certificate already. He continually lies about having to work and when he is in town says it is just for one night. Last night I discovered on good old facebook that he was in fact here after returning from Melbourne Cup!! Priorities people. Honestly. The kids are desperate to see him. There is nothing anyone can do to change this attitude except the person realising themselves and that is about personal growth and maturity. So now I am going to do my best to look after the kids, get as much money from him as I can to meet their needs. After 3 1/2 years without childsupport I think we are entitled to it!