In the end for me I had to forget about the one who was living with him and concentrate on the other two as it was looking evident that he was going to try the same thing. Which is not how I would raise children discussing adult issues but I had to inform the kids of everything going on so that they could really think about how they would talk to the court psychologist. The one who was living with the father was even going to all the solicitors appointments and being told what to say to schools and how to act etc…
His solicitors cost were$50 000 and mine were none but he has the eldest and I have not seen him since and this was all after a 6 year working parenting agreement that the father had organised and I just signed and followed.
I can honestly say I think I should have taken the child back and broken the orders by taking him to another state until he had put in the court contravention and that way the child would have had a clearer view or be able to make a more informed decision but another judge may have been a different outcome. We have archaic orders now where I have 100% custody of the two in my care and he has it for the one in his care with neither of us having any contact. Which really is crazy!!