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Post #4943 by Vernichtung on February 9th 2008, 12:52 AM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!:

Yeah I would rather have as detailed an order as possible! To prevent the even slightest of possibility's that the ex partner can interfere.

I Speak both English and German. I would love the ability to teach Johnathan German as this would please his Grand Parents enormously.

How could I use that in a parenting agreement?

Johann

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Post #4890 by Vernichtung on February 7th 2008, 2:51 PM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!: Clause for order etc

See I would rather a clause for when he starts school, stating that I sit with him to assist with his homework . I have made it clear to his mother that his education is high on my list of priority's for our son and given her limited knowledge in education I believe I would be better suited to the task.

Is it possible to add something like this into the agreement at such an early age?

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Post #4885 by Vernichtung on February 7th 2008, 11:56 AM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!:

I'm happy to say that my little man is somewhat special then, because although has lacks the ability to converse he most definatly knows its Daddy on the other end of the phone! Chuckling with glee saying daddy repeatedly and just constantly speaking a unrecognizable dialect with a few common known words like "Wiggles" "Jiggly Wiggs" and "park" I put this down to the fact that I am a Sales Exucetive and used to spend 2 or 3 nights a week away each night I would call him and have a chat :D.

I asked her via txt message today when she will be bringing him home and when we can start mediation. Hoping for a definate responce that could be used in evidence!

Johann

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Post #4878 by Vernichtung on February 7th 2008, 9:45 AM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!:

Yeah I am relaxing but to retreating.

If what she has said she is going to do does not happen I go straight back to where I was.

In all honesty I didnt even think of a phone contact :O What is reasonable? Half an hour twice a week? I'm unsure?

I didn't say that as if I believed it so here is what it should say ;)

Manipulative and irrational Ladies are a strange breed :P

Majority of ladies I have met are all lovely.

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Post #4869 by Vernichtung on February 6th 2008, 11:33 PM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!: Improving News

OK great news I hope!!!

She has decided to come back?

She apologised and she agreed to go to the Legal Aid Mediation (the one that is legally binding).

I am full aware it could be a trick to get me to relax my grip, so I informed her that I would still go ahead with the orders until such time as we are both sitting in mediation.

She said she would be back in a fortnight and I convinced her to be back in a week, stating it's better for all involved to get this sorted now!

I think the Mediation will go smoothly, as I am not asking for any more than first agreed, being every second weekend, two nights a week and two weeks holidays a year.

Strange breed them ladies?

So although at this stage nothing has changed other than the fact she seems to now understand the severity of the situation or how she was going to hurt our boy but either way I am 100% overjoyed to talk with my boy :P .

As always wish me luck guys!

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Post #4856 by Vernichtung on February 6th 2008, 4:22 PM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!:

WOW I just got a message from her telling me she will call me later tonight!

I guess her family encouraged her to do the right thing!

Well I hope so anyway.

Johann

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Post #4851 by Vernichtung on February 6th 2008, 2:40 PM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!:

Guys you have all been great help!

I paid for a solicitor today, A specialist in family law she charged me $220 just for a 1 hour consultation. :O .

I don't have the means to pay such high charges.

So I applied to Legal Aid for assistance against my better judgment. They will charge me around $570 or so to do the lot I think.

I only have one more family member of my ex to contact but they seem to not want to answer there phone. (Wondering if that could be where my son is.)

Her family is saying they have spoken to her but don't know where she is. Her brother said that she just needed time to cool down.

Do I wait to see if she comes back running the risk of being seen as not to interested or do I jump in and run the risk of looking stupid?

I really want to file this as I still have a 2 week wait until the federal Magistrate is in Mackay.

I have been studying the sections of the Family Law Act 1975 Released 1st Jan 2008,

Subdivision BA

Division 6 Subdivision A

Division 8 Subdivision c

Can anyone suggest any other sections I should study!

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Post #4837 by Vernichtung on February 6th 2008, 7:53 AM (in topic “My story and how I got here!”)

My story and how I got here!:

Very sorry mate.

I will do my best to refrain from using names. It makes sense I guess. ;)

Just obviously didn't put much thought into it!

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Post #4824 by Vernichtung on February 5th 2008, 10:37 PM (in topic “Shared parenting - being fair”)

Shared parenting - being fair:

Agreed with both Artemis and D4E.

For how long has the father of the boys been acting in this way (Being unreliable)?

Has there been a issue between the two of you?

Could he be suffering in other areas of his life?

It would be hard to suggest a course of action without knowing the facts.

But by sitting down and having the chat with him may produce something you didn't expect and you may understand what is happening in his life that dramatically changed his behaviour.

I hope my opinion helps.

Johann

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Post #4821 by Vernichtung on February 5th 2008, 10:24 PM (in topic “General - Language usage to shut fathers out”)

General - Language usage to shut fathers out:

Artemis said
When I think of the super special men in my life (my late father, my partner, my children, my male friends) I think of the following words:

Strong, compassionate, brave, loving, fair, charitable, kind, forebearance, sweet, idealistic, determined, playful, hard-working, helpful, caring.

Children need their Dads to learn how to be a good man and also to know what a good man should be.
Well Said!

I was raised by my mother alone and not that I turned out bad. I just seemed to always be missing something. It was not until I had my boy and watched how we interacted that I learned the reason for this. A boy needs to have his father. We teach our sons about his surroundings how the world works, were men we are drawn to mechanical things which means we learn as much as we can about the world hence the reason more car accidents are caused by guys. ;) (sorry but it is true lol)

We like to push things to see what happens! Females on the other hand are generally all about feelings if they don't feel good doing something they generally don't do it. It's my opinion now that boys without the contact with there fathers run the risk of loosing the ability to socialize effectively with other males as there ideals are quite different. It's only a thought at this stage but I think im somewhat on the right track!

Johann
I'd like to see more self development/self esteem courses in high school. If you know who you are, it's a lot easier to spot what you need/want in a partner.
I think this is an interesting idea and would encourage its progression.

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