Grandfather inappropriately touching 15-year-old:
We are facing almost 8 weeks of school holidays and my daughter will be with her father (near her grandfather) for 50% of that time.
CSA should not come into it, but it is a factor to be considered. It could be seen as a ploy by myself to minimise her dads time, over the coming month/s.
I felt I needed to really place all my thoughts/cards 'out there' and I have no one I can confide in so here/this forum was where I chose, to collect my thoughts.
Again I thank you all for you points of view and advice.
This afternoon I called the grandfather, with a short, prepared assertive statement written in front of me.
I read it to him and was responded to with the expected response of, "Oh, I have no idea what you are talking about".
My objective was not to lay accusations, it was to flag the fact my daughter has spoken up, that she is uncomfortable in his presence. And that under no circumstances is he to make himself available to have my daughter over night. That he is NEVER to be alone with her, and that is her wishes.
I have not told my daughter I called, and I am in no hurry to tell her. I don't want her trust betrayed. But at some stage I would like her to know I did do something, that her well being and safety is more important to me than almost anything.
At this point in her development her trust is more important than her knowing I am prepared to make the hard calls. If she doesn't trust me, I can't be there at the right time. I lost my mum when I was 13, I know what it is like having no one there to bat for you, but more importantly to not have anyone you could trust.