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Post #32115 by TReeves1 on September 26th 2010, 12:36 PM (in topic “Children won't go with father”)

Children won't go with father

My previous post is as below,

Well unforunately this morning turned out the way I thought it would.  The children were very distressed, they spoke to him but refused to go with him.  The children did refuse to get dressed and really didn't want to engage in conversation with him.  Of course it was all my fault and he is threatening police and I am assuming he will attempt a contravention of orders.  As I said the children are seeing someone and I have tried to have the father go and see her as it is him who needs help with his relationship with his children, now the excuse that was yelled at me this morning was his psychiatrist as advised him not to see the childrens treating psychiatrist.

Any advice or help would be appreciated as I feel I am between a rock and a hard place, I have written to the father (he doesn't want any contact with me) about the health concerns, he has even replied saying he was concerned.  The children are over it and like I said I can't yell at them or dish out a punishment because they don't want to see him.  I do encourage them and let them know when he should be coming (doesn't always and he doesn't call them to tell them what is happenning next time he is planning on seeing them).  I feel I am in a no win situation.

Hi all,

Just after some advice.  I have had a family law matter for over two years now.  The father has had supervised contact over that time as he is deemed a medium risk of re offending against children (I won't go into the nasty bits).  The father hasn't liked supervised contact and has chosen not to see the children regularly over this time, very sporadic in fact.  He has also chosen not to regularly phone the children either.  The children have had physical and mental signs of stress over his sporadic contact and are seeing a child psychiatrist for it (she is absolutely lovely and has helped the children remarkably)  unfortunately the father refuses to see the child psychiatrist despite claiming to be concerned with their health.  It has recently come to ahead where both children a refusing to see him.  At recent supervised visits they have told him this and he seemingly agreed.  However, now he is not had contact with them the last two/three weeks and is wanting to see them tomorrow as the court orders provide.  My problem is the children are refusing, they are so adamant they don't want to go or even see if anymore .

I feel as though I am in the middle here, I have told them they will be spending time with him, but they don't even want to get dressed or get ready to see him, it is not like I can wrestle a 9 and 10 year old to get dressed.

I have conveyed to him that the children have these concerns but he refuses to see the child psychiatrist so she can work with him on strategies to deal with the children and he refuses to talk to me.

Has anyone experienced something similar, it is not like I can force them out the door, how would the courts view this?


I hope someone can help as I feel like I am in the middle and can;t make anyone happy.

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Post #32092 by TReeves1 on September 25th 2010, 6:41 PM (in topic “Children won't go with father”)

Children won't go with father

Hi all,

Just after some advice.  I have had a family law matter for over two years now.  The father has had supervised contact over that time as he is deemed a medium risk of re offending against children (I won't go into the nasty bits).  The father hasn't liked supervised contact and has chosen not to see the children regularly over this time, very sporadic in fact.  He has also chosen not to regularly phone the children either.  The children have had physical and mental signs of stress over his sporadic contact and are seeing a child psychiatrist for it (she is absolutely lovely and has helped the children remarkably)  unfortunately the father refuses to see the child psychiatrist despite claiming to be concerned with their health.  It has recently come to ahead where both children a refusing to see him.  At recent supervised visits they have told him this and he seemingly agreed.  However, now he is not had contact with them the last two/three weeks and is wanting to see them tomorrow as the court orders provide.  My problem is the children are refusing, they are so adamant they don't want to go or even see if anymore .

I feel as though I am in the middle here, I have told them they will be spending time with him, but they don't even want to get dressed or get ready to see him, it is not like I can wrestle a 9 and 10 year old to get dressed.

I have conveyed to him that the children have these concerns but he refuses to see the child psychiatrist so she can work with him on strategies to deal with the children and he refuses to talk to me.

Has anyone experienced something similar, it is not like I can force them out the door, how would the courts view this?


I hope someone can help as I feel like I am in the middle and can;t make anyone happy.

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Post #30913 by TReeves1 on July 29th 2010, 9:10 PM (in topic “Having my Child support increased for another mans child”)

Having my Child support increased for another mans child:

I am the husband of a mother who has 2 children from a previous marriage and we have had a new child.  When it comes to child support my wife's ex does not want to have a bar of it adn fights tooth and nail with his usual arguement is I earn enough to pay for all the kids.  I think most of the posts have elements of emotion to them but the reality is the law as prescribed cant deal with all circumstances broken family units adn new family units fidn themselves in.  Depending on how reasonable JBW4273 your ex partner is your best option is to enter into a child support agreement with her.  A child support agreement provides the flexibility you may need and if you ex is reasonable then this is worth a try to negoatiate such an agreement.  Going into COA's I think you will find it hard to provide a strong case.

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