Guest considers that only fathers want shared parenting:
It is a sad time for children and mothers. If you look up the studies you will see that fathers are the only ones who are actually happy with shared care. Kids in shared care are far more likely to experience anxiety, depression, poor concentration and emotional/developmental problems due to the instability of going back and forth and conflict between the parents.
I've increased the text to appease some -
This topic started well but seems to be getting a bit heated & gender biased. The fact we have an excellent site like this demonstrates to me that Fathers are not actually happy with current shared care processes and are actively trying to improve the situation for everyone.
Let's not forget that many kids caught up in this started off in a happy stable family environment with a mum and a dad living together. I read that in a recent study 95% of children in shared parental care still wanted mum & dad to get back together. Wow 95%. In many cases (studies show) it is a lack of communication that breeds dissatisfaction in a relationship. If parents honestly thought about the consequences separation will have on their children and sought professional help for the relationship first as the courts are pushing, then maybe there would be less hurt children.
How many parents have decided to end a relationship with that declaration "I just want (other parent) out of my life" but now see them more often when delivering and/or retrieving children? The studies I've read have concluded that kids are far more likely to experience anxiety, depression, poor concentration, and emotional/development problems from separation and exclusion from the other parent. But are less likely to experience those things if their other parent is involved in their lives.
Some reports state that constant denigration of the other parent by the parent the child lives with often causes those same issues. . . .
There seems to be a big focus here on winning over the other party. For both of you. No one can win here. Your child doesn't see their dad much. Ex Partner doesn't see his child much. And you suffer anxiety and want to move but can't.
Think of what you have - You are now happily married - I suggest you seek councelling for the anxiety and think about what your child wants.