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Angry mothers' groups tell one-side stories about relocations

Interesting that the following article, from The Australian, by Caroline Overington, immediately takes the side of the mother about how mothers are allegedly forced to stay where they don't want to be, and of course Elspeth McInnes start sprouting off.  The court didn't say she couldn't leave the town, it said she couldn't leave with the daughter.

Caroline Overington chose to write in support of mothers and chose to NOT report about the many fathers who have had their children removed from them by mothers via relocations hundreds or thousands of kilometres away.

Caroline Overington supports the feminist and mother's rights view of female ownership of children:
Caroline Overington said
The mother in the northwest Queensland case, known in court transcripts as Mrs Rosa, got married in 2000 and had her child in 2002.  (Emphasis added.)
Children have two parents and get maximum preparation for and benefit from life from having both parents involved in their lives.  They do not need one parent arbitrarily shutting out the other parent.

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The Australian
29 May 2009

Parent law ties women to men
By Caroline Overington

Wives who follow their husbands to remote corners of Australia in search of work may find themselves stuck in their new home town, unable to leave with the children.

The Family Court has ruled that new shared-parenting laws, brought in by the Howard government in 2006, mean that the right of a child to have a relationship with both parents trumps the right of a mother to return to her home state, even if she has lived in the new location for less than a year.

In the most recent case, the court ruled that a 34-year-old mother could not leave an "isolated" town in northwest Queensland with her five-year-old daughter after her marriage broke down, because it would rupture the close relationship the girl had with her father.

The case has prompted concern among family law experts that the shared-parenting law is effectively forcing people "back into failed relationships".

Elspeth McInnes, a researcher in family law at the University of South Australia, cited research by the Family Law Council that suggested the right of women to relocate after divorce had essentially been lost, under the amendments to the Family Law Act.

"Previously, judges were prepared to consider the idea that women or mums could go where there is extended family support for them and their children," Ms McInnes said.

"Under the new laws, the meaningful relationship with both parents has moved up (to take greater priority).

"There are still ways to say the child is better served by returning to the town where she was born but basically, judges are telling resident parents, mainly women, that they have to stay put.

"They subordinate women's time with their children around a husband's work demands."

The mother in the northwest Queensland case, known in court transcripts as Mrs Rosa, got married in 2000 and had her child in 2002.

She lived with her husband in Sydney until 2007, when he got a job as a mining engineer in a remote part of Queensland. The town is not named in the transcript, but is described as "isolated".

The Rosas moved up as a family, but after eight months, the husband told the wife that the marriage was over, put her possessions in boxes, and put them on the deck.

Mrs Rosa, 34, took their daughter back to her mother's house in Sydney but the father petitioned the Family Court for their return, saying he wanted to maintain a relationship with his child.

During court proceedings, the mother argued that the father could quit his job and return to Sydney and share custody of their daughter in their home town.

He declined, saying his job had become important and was "interesting".

Under changes to the Family Law Act (1975) adopted by the Howard government in 2006, the Family Court is required to apply the presumption that shared parenting is in a child's best interests, except where there is violence.

The court ruled that the mother could not leave northwest Queensland with the child. She argued that she was isolated and impoverished. She lives in a caravan, because it is the only accommodation she can afford. She appealed to the Full Court of the Family Court, which upheld the decision on May 15.

The federal magistrate said the mother's plan to move would have a "most serious and detrimental effect upon the very close and important relationship that exists (between the daughter and her Dad)".

"In my assessment, the only means by which there can be a proper and appropriate relationship facilitated between this child and both parents is for the child to remain in northwest Queensland," he said.

He accepted the mother's "feelings of isolation and feeling of depression" about being stuck in the town where her marriage ended with little support. She said she would never leave without her daughter.

The federal magistrate had doubts about the mother's willingness to foster a relationship between the father and the child.

Family law academic Barbara Biggs, who last month organised a series of protests in major capital cities to highlight problems with the new Family Law Act, said the shared parenting laws presume that the parents "can co-operate, and get on".

"In many cases, these are couples that can't co-operate over what shelf to put the milk," Ms Biggs said. "It's a dreadful situation, to force a woman to live in a town where she has no family and no work, and to say that's the only way the child can be raised."

Rosa & Rosa [2009] FamCAFC 81 (15 May 2009)

The judgement for this case can be read at Austlii:

Rosa & Rosa [2009] FamCAFC 81 (15 May 2009)

Or download this PDF version (300KB):


The following remarks by the judge were surprisingly absent from the Australian article:
32. His Honour then reviewed at length (paragraphs 73 to 88) the mother's evidence. That review led him to the following conclusions:

   89. I gained the distinct impression that the mother was perhaps even unknowingly continuing to minimise and to fail to recognise the importance of the father in the life of this child…

   90. The mother unfortunately gave me the distinct impression that she was somewhat self-centred also in her position with regard to the child. I gained the distinct impression that the mother's view was that there was only one person of priority in relation to the relationship with the child, and that was her. It may be that she was, and remains the primary carer of the child. It may be that the relationship between the father and the child, and the mother and the child are different relationships but the mother's apparent failure to recognise in any way, shape or form, the importance to [the child] of growing up with a close and fostered bond and interaction with the father is telling and is troubling in relation to these proceedings.
44. Again in the context of this particular matter, his Honour reiterated his concerns regarding the mother's capacity to foster the child's relationship with the father:

   115. Unfortunately as is perhaps obvious from the comments I have made, I do have some real concerns about the mother's capacity to properly appreciate the emotional needs of this child in relation to a fostered relationship and a developing relationship with the father. I gained the distinct impression that the mother lacked considerably a capacity to appreciate that need and that it was a factor again, weighing far more significantly in favour of the father's proposals than of those of the mother.
45. The next additional consideration his Honour regarded as "significant" was s 60CC(3)(i), being "the attitude to the child, and to the responsibilities of parenthood, demonstrated by each of the child's parents". He commented in this regard:

   117. … there are very many positives that both parents show in relation to their parenting of the child. But as is clear, it is of concern to me that there is a lack of appreciation on the part of the mother of the very real need to foster and develop a relationship with the father and that is a failing that gives rise to a concern as to the mother's proposals in relation to this matter.

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