I joined this Forum to learn what other father's in similar situations are doing to prevent this injustice to our children. I read with interest the article posted previously about the work of Dr Warren Farrell and watched the 'powerful video'
My kids are now 9 and 12 respectively, and I have been thoroughly abused by 'the family court' system, forced into protracted legal proceedings, wasted ridiculous amounts of money, etc etc. I went from having care of my 2 children for almost 90% to getting the stereotypical 'fathers' deal in the substantive Trial of 37/63%- mainly as a result of 'the contrived level of conflict' generated by her lawyer.
Now going through further mediation as a result of further action taken by my vexatious ex and her feminist/single junkyard dog of lawyer in an attempt to overturn the final Orders to seek 100% with the mother.
I joined this Forum to learn what other father's in similar situations are doing to prevent this injustice to our children. I read with interest the article posted previously about the work of Dr Warren Farrell and watched the 'powerful video' suggested by another forum member.
I was very heartened by his 'research' and took his view regarding the merits of forcing conflicting parents to equally parent children vs placing the children with a 'dominant' parent to FRC workers and other meditation counsellors.
Their reaction to viewing Dr Warren Farrell's video is one of complete disbelief. I was warned 'this guy is not a scientist, he is a fake.' and
'his views are extremely destructive, damaging and plainly wrong when it comes to the children's best interests.' and
'Warren Farrell's work doesn't hold a candle to Jenn McIntosh's research' and
'Farrell goes on about the 'non-measurable data' - which simply translates into very dangerous and misleading work by the 'mens movement' at the expense of the children' and
'his work is simply not peer-reviewed by the scientific community - whereas Jenn McIntosh is a respected Australian pyschologist- he is just a good writer and salesman.'
In summary, I have to agree that on the face of it - Dr Farrell may be nothing more than a 'popular author' masquerading as a 'political scientist'- a degree you can 'literally buy' in USA.
I'd really like to put some meat on the bones about his work, because no-one I come across who seems to be interested in anything but the 'preliminary data of the work done by Jenn McIntosh' where she has found that 'parents in conflict are highly damaging on the children'. Go to the FRC or do a POP course and you get a face full of the apparent negative and damaging effects on children caused by parents in conflict.
(DACC = Dad's Against Contrived Conflict)