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SRL-Resources modified the joining rules on 26th January.

There is no longer a requirement for posting points on the FLWG site.

The requirement to be a member of FLWG remains.

The requirement to take the SRL-R quiz stays the same.

There are now processing fees as the SRL-R Execs are no longer prepared to fund these and other costs from their own pockets.

Page changes have not yet been incorporated into the join SRL-R page at this time but will be incorporated shortly.

SRL-Resources. the Family Law People on this site (look for the Avatars) www.srl-resources.org  Non gender Professional and peer support for SRLs. Closed site, no public forums, no search engines, no lurkers, guests or the other side and their Lawyer and Friends.

Walk the Talk ............

There is an excellent topic in this area called Walk theTalk.  After reading some of the SRL-R material I understood that it was averaging $11.50 per hour when all the subscriptions and the Execs personal costs were averaged out. Thats serious dollars when some of them are kicking in more than 20 hours a week.
I also heard from a member - who was not prepared to use a pay per question site - that he had saved over $200 in one week and it was all for free on here!!!!! Thats a real nice attitude!!!!. Could not be bothered to make a donation of even five bucks to the site.
Reading the Execs material they are not about money  but constantly use the term reciprocation  I would like to hear some first hand good and bad experiences from them.

The help i have had on here is priceless… my case (hopefully) will soon be over and when it is i will help to take the strain the best i can by helping others as ong as people need help

Its the only way, give back what you take

;-)

They must find it difficult, those who have taken authority as the truth, rather than truth as the authority

Conan said
gooner said
The help i have had on here is priceless… my case (hopefully) will soon be over and when it is i will help to take the strain the best i can by helping others as ong as people need help

Its the only way, give back what you take

;-)

A worthy gesture but don't become one of the one case wonders that this site attracts

what does that mean?


They must find it difficult, those who have taken authority as the truth, rather than truth as the authority

I believe that Conan is warning against becoming one of those who have dipped their toes into the waters of Family Law and then starting up advanced swimming lessons based in those waters. Conan does have a habit of being as blunt as blunt can be.
I have noticed Conans bluntness defeats the purpose of his posts, most just take offence and put him in the medicated basket. May I suggest, a more constructive bluntness might help us all.

As my mother often says; when you are pointing a finger at someone, make sure your own house is as clean as a whistle, you are actually pointing 3 fingers back at you.

What do you think Agog?   
justin said
I have noticed Conans bluntness defeats the purpose of his posts, most just take offence and put him in the medicated basket. May I suggest, a more constructive bluntness might help us all.

As my mother often says; when you are pointing a finger at someone, make sure your own house is as clean as a whistle, you are actually pointing 3 fingers back at you.

What do you think Agog?   


I think you are echoing similar sentiments to your acquaintance srldad101.

I agree many of the posts are blunt and to the point, however some are of great value. Of interest is that Conan receives far more compliments than official complaints. To date after 2 years there are no warnings against the account which might indicate that a large percentage of readers prefer straight talking.

Executive Member of SRL-Resources, the Family Law People on this site (look for the Avatars) Be mindful what you post in public areas. 

Sad but true

Sadly, some separated parents "love their children so much" that they want someone else to do all the work for them, often for free.

And while that happens they feel entitled to live a self-centred life, expecting to live off the good will of others.

Real love works hard for children and self and makes the effort to understand the situation and work towards a suitable resolution/outcome.

It would be useful if some of those helped gave back - but understandable that people want to get out of 'family law' ASAP.

What they need to avoid though is becoming one hit wonders who have a little success and then consider themselves experts.  One danger associated with this is a tendency to see others' situations only through the lense of their own experience and outcomes and so seek to impose their methods and solutions on others.

Good advice to a SRL from the ICL

Yesterday I heard an ICL advise a SRL

"Its your child and your life!"

in reponse to a request for an opinion.

It was a totally appropriate response and great advice.

Many parents for they are parents and with that comes responsibility, with responsibility come decision making.

We at SRL-R can help with understanding the process etc, but we can't make your decisions for you and we can't run your case for you.

To get a good out come, you will need to listen, have reasonable expectations, be willing to learn and willing to put the work in.

For me - Shared Parenting is a Reality - Maybe it can be for you too!
Mike - there are still plenty of people on here who have dipped their toes and are still very aware and cautious of the very deep water they see in front of them.
Fairgo said
Mike - there are still plenty of people on here who have dipped their toes and are still very aware and cautious of the very deep water they see in front of them.
Fairgo, Mike T is nor referring to people that understand how deep and shark infested the water is, but to the One Case Wonders. These are people who seem to think their single experience translates into a great knowledge of the system and they freely offer advice like lollies at a children's party.

In many cases they are quite dangerous by offering incorrect advice/information that can damage cases. The SRL-R and SPCA have occasionally had to rescue people at the eleventh hour because some 'know it all' has help toss a noobie litigant in the deep end without a lifebelt.

Executive Member of SRL-Resources, the Family Law People on this site (look for the Avatars) Be mindful what you post in public areas. 
On the flipside, newbies can offer their own experience and it can be valuable.  In my case, the judge said words to the effect of 'i've never seen one like this before' (translate: this is a hot potato - and i'm transferring it to another court).  

Ther reader, the user, MUST as you all have said before, sift and sort, and decide for themselves.

I for one, have been grateful for ANY help, expert or otherwise.

Thanks again to all on this site for taking the time to contribute.
stormsurge said
On the flipside, newbies can offer their own experience and it can be valuable.
That is want the site wants and needs, peoples personal experiences. Providing of course they stay away from something they are only guessing or making wild assumptions about.

Executive Member of SRL-Resources, the Family Law People on this site (look for the Avatars) Be mindful what you post in public areas. 
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