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For all those people who have read my earlier vent. The Courts have phoned and the decision will be made over the phone tomorrow. I just don't have the energy to go into court and I am not sure I can pick up the phone.

The boy's officially start their new school on Tuesday. I just bought all the uniforms and books today! I don't know how I went in self representing but I didn't come out feeling confident.

I pray that someone is thinking about the children as uprooting them so close to starting school would be devastating. They do not need all this drama. They just want to love both parents and be let to do so.
It can be reasonably expected that you will be at least given an summary of the judgement. Reasons may be available but could be provided at a later time.
Whatever the outcome it is hoped that you will be able to keep in mind that what is preminent in the courts judgement is intended to be in the children's best interests.
You may have precipitated the judgement hand-down if you made enquiries.

May peace be with you

What is done for you, let it be done, what you must do, be sure you do it, as the wise person does today that what the fool will do in three days - Buddha


Thank you. No I did not make enquiries but I know the fact the children were starting secondary school was the drive behind the ex's case as they would not be uprooted from a school it is just so late for the children to be told that they will not be attending the school that was chosen. His legal team would have been demanding a decision.

On the final day of the hearing he came up with a new affidavit that made me look like I had instigated the children constantly running away when in his care. i never really got to defend it as it was handed to me the minute we walked into the court room and i was so shocked by the allegations that i don't think I defended them well and of course it is psychological abuse if someone is encouraging kids to run away.

The ex just could not get that they were copying from the eldest in his care who runs away from me and him. I know things have to change but if he got custody i would never see them again as he will has never let me see my eldest son and that would be so hard for us all. It has been so detrimental to the eldest..he fails school and has put on so much weight..

Sorry rambling..thanks
It is possible to argue late affidavits to not be admitted. Were you asked if you agreed?
It is best to await the judgement and then consider your options.
The father can not dictate to the children and the court tends to be aware of the dynamics within shared relationships. If you have had custody then only exceptional reasons can cause you to be excluded from your children's lives.
The court decision is legal in nature, the real relationships the children share with either parent are more long lasting.
May you share your judgement and I hope you can live with it.

What is done for you, let it be done, what you must do, be sure you do it, as the wise person does today that what the fool will do in three days - Buddha
I am not sure I will even be able to pick up the phone to hear it. Last time she just gave a brief and then sent the decision in the mail after I requested them. i will have to live with it or I can just view them as a piece of paper as he did and take no notice of them which was her concern. Orders are only good if both parties stick to them and he never has so maybe its my turn after 8 years of dragging kids to the car to spend time with him and following the orders to the last dot.

Its been so long in waiting for her decision as she promised it in November that I have got worked up but time to calm down and the reality is that there is more to life then raising children and my kids are old enough that they will make their own decision in a couple of years. They are amazing children despite our garbage!

I never agreed to the affidavit but the Judge allowed it even though the incident happened in May and he brought it up on the final day in October when we already had two other final  days in July and August.

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No, she must be running late. I decided to do it by telephone as it was such short notice.
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Annie, i have been followingthis thread closely, to see your result, and to see how you are coping with the tension. I am sure we would all like to know, now that it is 5.47pm if anything happened today?

We all understand what you are going through, and i am sure we all are waiting to hear, so , in the name of this thread.

IS THERE ANY NEWS YET?

i hope six lines is ok……..:thumbs:

thanks

They must find it difficult, those who have taken authority as the truth, rather than truth as the authority

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