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This is marriage guidance material.

Your experiences can be read as a pending situation rather than an actual happening.

There are problems dealing with real scenarios, dealing with hypotheticals may be beyond the ambit of this site.

Read the site carefully and you will find answers to your possible questions.

In the end your life choices are best made by you.

What is done for you, let it be done, what you must do, be sure you do it, as the wise person does today that what the fool will do in three days - Buddha
I think going to a counsellor face to face, if this is possible will be most valuable.

You need to get some clarity about what you want from life and how to achieve this.

Resolving some of the stress in your life, that you have control over, will make decision making easier.

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Sometimes faced with stressful situations a good question to ask yourself is: If someone else was going through all the things that I am going through at the moment would they feel stressed too ?  I think you would find the answer to be yes.  So don't fall into the trap of feeling weak or alone, others have been there too.

You should keep seeing your counsellor/psychologist..maybe they could help you to learn some relaxation/meditation techniques and some postive self affirmations that maybe you could do when you have a quiet moment, say early in the morning or when your daughter has a sleep during the day ( if your're lucky enough !)

Eating a good diet, getting some gentle exercise and making sure you get some rest would help too. Looking at things from the point of view as to how you can change your life for the better, even if it is only small thing gives you a sense of purpose. Accepting that you can't change others or wish for them to be how you would like them to be is a big step but can bring an immense sense of relief.

Maybe seeing an understanding GP would also be of benefit as prolonged stress can also take a toll on your physical wellbeing. Be kind to youself and reach out to those around you :)
You need to extricate yourself from your relationship. The question is 'how to accomplish that in a way that will be best for your daughter'. Continuing to know her father even though he is 'pub-bound' is good for her provided he is not an abusive father.

Start keeping a diary. Because you live in the same house make sure he never finds it. Document everything.

Threats on his behalf about 'custody' are something you perhaps shouldn't be as worried about as you are. You are in a good place I believe, as these pages are full of stories of people who made great things happen for their children with help from the SRL site members.

Your partner's use of the word 'custody' is not a term used by the Family Court or Magistrates Court anymore. It is replaced with the term 'parental responsibility' and it encompasses a lot more than 'who owns the child', a way of thinking that you can let him think, because it's not true.

My advice too is, if you pick up any legal info in here, while you are still living with him, don't show your hand by letting him know you are researching. Play 'legally dumb'………….Hey that sounds like a movie title  :lol:

Keep your chin up. Love your daughter :thumbs:
Best of luck

pariah  :)

pariah said
Your partner's use of the word 'custody' is not a term used by the Family Court or Magistrates Court anymore. It is replaced with the term 'parental responsibility' and it encompasses a lot more than 'who owns the child', a way of thinking that you can let him think, because it's not true.

Slight correction, the word 'custody' has been replaced with 'Lives with and spends time with'

Howdy folks

Just wondering,do srl-r have offices in major cities or is all info & support all online?

Cheers P2P

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Answer to both questions is No.
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