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I am wondering if anyone knows of the law regarding smoking marijuana inside with a child? Or what I can do about this situation?
My daughter who is 7 told me and my partner the other day that her dad goes into the bedroom and smokes a very long pipe.
I am assuming it is marijuana as he smoked this quite alot in the past but I was told that he had quit it.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated whether bad or good.
I am wondering if anyone knows of the law regarding smoking marijuana inside with a child? Or what I can do about this situation?
What laws do you mean?. Possessing pot is illegal under *most* states criminal codes (some states allow a few grams). You could report it to police and/or the applicable child welfare organization in your state.

Are you meaning family laws perhaps? I assume you are separated from him. Family law courts make decisions on a case by case basis. Do you have court or consent orders or a parenting plan that states your daughter is to have contact with her father?  Have you discussed what your daughter told you with him?
I'm not sure what laws. I know it is illegal. I'm wanting to know what there is I can do.
Yes we have a parenting plan that states she is to stay with her dad every second friday to monday but that has changed to friday to sunday.
No I have not talked to him about what we were told. We really don't get along very well and there has been many times I have tried to talk to him about things but I just get abused.
And I think that if I talk to him about it, he is just going to deny it anyway.
I'm very confused as to what to do?!
Maybe you need to attempt to get him to go to mediation. Was your parenting plan agreed on with the help of a FDR center?
Getting him to mediation the first time was hard enough but that is the advice I have been given. Too attempt mediation again and to have written in there that he is not to smoke drugs when our daughter is in his care. Honestly I don't think he will follow through with it.
Yes our parenting plan was agreed in FRC but it has since changed a little, that was last june.
flower81 said
Getting him to mediation the first time was hard enough but that is the advice I have been given. Too attempt mediation again and to have written in there that he is not to smoke drugs when our daughter is in his care. Honestly I don't think he will follow through with it.
Yes our parenting plan was agreed in FRC but it has since changed a little, that was last june.
  Ignoring the legality issue, what is your problem with his use of cannabis in this context?

Is it that you are concerned about the impact of the smoke on your daughter? Is it that you are concerned about the effect on his capacity to look after the child while in his care? Is it that you are concerned about the example he is providing?

There are many people who consume cannabis regularly with few ill-effects. Just some food for thought.
Flower81 - I think Craigo offered some good "food for thought" in that you really need to be sure what your concerns are about this. If you can get really clear on what your worries are then you will know how to proceed.

Do you want your ex to be totally drug-free if possible? Or are you happy if he doesn't smoke when the child is there? It sounds like you won't trust his word on this anyway. He is obviously not just having a joint once she goes to bed if she has witnessed him smoking cones while she is still up. I would be concerned too in these circumstances.

Are you happy with the current arrangements other than the drug issue or are you seeking to change more than just this aspect?
You should be careful about conversation in earshot of the child that uses the word marijuana or cannabis.  Afterall, if the father is keeping it seperate to the child by going in to another room, he is probably not using that type of language in front of your child, and you should not either. That would be an unnecessary exposure by yourself.
Guest - I have never used the word marijuana or cannabis around my daughter. And I haven't mentioned in any posts I've told my daughter what I think it is!

Craigo - I am concerned about health affects the smoke may cause, also his ability to care for her and also the example he is setting for her. She has mentioned in the past that her dad is lazy and sits on the couch all day playing computer games or sleeping and loses his temper quite often at her. And he's obviously driving while under the influence of drugs, what happens if he has an accident?! My daughter has already said he drives like a maniac and it scares her! I understand many people do smoke it but doing it while a child is in his care is completely unacceptable.

Circe - Drug free would be great but I think that's a bit much to ask for so not smoking while the child is there is acceptable. But with that who knows if it will stop, its not like I'm there every second weekend with my daughter to see if it has stopped.
I am quite happy with the current agreement, it is just the drug issue at the moment but there is always something else that will pop up.
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