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Where do I find the Power point presentation and Starter Kit

Hi there,

This is my first post, hopefully others can use it.
I have spent an hour, not wasted as I have come across so much good information here, but still unable to find the 'Power Point Presentation and Starter Kit for SRL's'

Where is it? Anyone got a link to it?

I will post my story soon, but my eyes are red, reading reading reading. I have a 9 and a half months old boy, we're like kindred spirits. His mother 'allows' me to see him for 2 hours every second day, but keeps me at a distance from parenting him. I am not hunting 50/50, he's just a baby, I just want to be with my son and father him, not just be a visitor. Mediation was unsuccessful, so it's the court now. I am still hoping for a change, in the mean time I am preparing myself, being patient.

Any help appreciated. Thank you.

peace
m
Hang in there mate - you will have to jump through many hoops to get anywhere. Is he still being breast fed? If not then you should do better thah 2 hours every 2 days. Have you done a parenting course or checked out your local parents / play groups that you can involved in? The more the better for your son's relationship with you.
Hi Fairgo,

He is still being breast fed, but I have told the mother I am more than willing to work around that. It doesn't seem to be the issue really. I don't understand why she doesn't want her son to be loved by his father as much as possible? That's something we all wanted in our father's generation..

Still trying to find 'Power Point Presentation and Starter Kit for SRL's'

Anyone got any idea where it is? I have even tried a search, but nothing..

M
moses said
Still trying to find 'Power Point Presentation and Starter Kit for SRL's'

Anyone got any idea where it is? I have even tried a search, but nothing..
It used to be located in their private members area which means it will not show on a site search. It is also on their other site. You will have to jump through hoops to get access.
I saw the new 2012 version at a presentation last week.
Hi Conan,

Thank you, however what do you mean by 'their'. Who is that? SPCA? I have joined as a member to be able to post here and also applied for SRL-L membership.
What is important to note in the new version, once I get a hold of any version :)

M
Moses - perhaps try to get into a weekly baby swimming class. He'll like that.
Fairgo, already did that, start saturday :)
It's a bit hard for me as I am not an Australian citizen, I have received a permanent residency though and have come here to be with my son, no other reason.
But getting there, trying to find activities to do in Perth, just hard to get anywhere in 2 hours..

But keeping spirits high :) He is a great kid :)
Moses, there should be little disadvantage in being a permanent resident instead of a citizen. I was one for many years and am just coming up to my 2nd year as a citizen. I can think of two disadvantages; you can't get jobs that require citizenship (e.g. government jobs) and you can't get fee-help (mature student uni study loan). However, if you are having issues then perhaps some on here could assist.

Moses, have you tried checking out the SRL Resourcse website?
What do you mean just hard to get anyway in two hours?
I meant anywhere, physically, 2 hours is hard to go anywhere. I guess the right way to say it would be, it's difficult to go anywhere and do an activity in 2 hours without needing to look at the clock every 5 minutes.
I have tried asking the mother to give me a bottle, but she won't. Even return him home for the feed, then spend a couple of hours more with him, also no.

I hope she softens up a bit once she stops breast feeding, but she is a Steiner teacher, so she might do that for a couple of years more.
No plastic toys, no listening to radio and so forth.

M
You are correct. You have certainly got some work ahead of you if that is the situation. I guess you should count yourself lucky to have 2 hours every second day. My wife breast fed our son for two years. Good thing we are happily married although she does believe in shared parenting. I can say the court wont like things like no toys or listening to the radio etc…
Be very patient mate. Maybe she will be more reasonable when she goes back to work?
Hi Moses,
Below is a guideline of visitation for babies and infants written by experts in infant mental health. I think you will find that regular short visits are the best thing for your child at this point. 
http://www.aaimhi.org/inewsfiles/AAIMHI_Guideline_1_-_Infants_and_overnight_care_post_separation_and_divorce.pdf
Id take a seriously long hard look at the issues that you are dealing with and weigh up whether going to court is a good idea, considering she is openly encouraging you to come and bond with your child every second day for a couple of hours.  Court should be avoided as much as possible, its expensive, very stressful and in the end its the courts, not you as parents, that are deciding what the best thing for your baby is. Do you really want that?


Surely a walk in the park, laying on a blanket in the backyard blowing bubbles? Anything…..is good and she is not stopping you from seeing him, so…?
Conan said
moses said
Still trying to find 'Power Point Presentation and Starter Kit for SRL's'

Anyone got any idea where it is? I have even tried a search, but nothing..
It used to be located in their private members area which means it will not show on a site search. It is also on their other site. You will have to jump through hoops to get access.
I saw the new 2012 version at a presentation last week.
Is there any issue in making it available in some form as a general document?

Joining the SRL -Resources group is almost an impossibility . I have been waiting for about two and a half years to even get a response to a joining request. Its probably time we provided some of the good core information to the public section of the site I suspect. Have you any other ideas?


Executive Secretary - Shared Parenting Council of Australia
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So many posts to reply to, all good, thank you all!

I have read this infant baby guideline. Written by Jennifer McIntosh, but based on a very small group of people. She is not exactly in favour of shared parenting either.
I find it strange you post it here?

I am not rushing into the court room, by far, but since I can not get any indication of how much time I can spend with my son from the mother, it's not really a workable situation. There are thousands of people and several studies that show, that if the toddler gets used to two homes at an early age, it's much better for their development and comfort in being with either carer.

Who said I wanted overnight stays? I just want my son to know his father as a father who loves him, not a visitor.


2) Thanks for all the resources and yes, joining the SRL group is like trying to get into the Oval office.

The mother has no intention of returning to work for the first 6 years. Wow, it's amazing, 6 years. I think it's great for mother's who are on their own, where the father has bailed. But really, i can only see that in the case of the mother of my son, she is definitely going to do that as long as she can. She is living rent free at her dads, receiving baby bonus, child support and single parent pension. If it was me, I wouldn't be going to work. Rather play with my child. I don't blame her, seriously that's luxury. I am happy for her though, she's not struggling, my son is not struggling.

But in terms of reason, it certainly doesn't help… :)
How do you join the SRL resources group please?
Moses
Don't take any notice of those AAIMH guidelines. They are nakedly, self-serving agenda rubbish and so is Samba. A government sponsored troll dangerously giving advice for sole maternal custody to vulnerable people at their time of need - unacceptable.
Stop being a moron every day, Samba as it's oppressive.

These so-called "guidelines" have been extensively discussed, analysed & rejected at
View topic: CoA-where do CSA get their income figures from? - flwg.com.au

"no evidence presented for McIntosh's findings other than his own prejudices. One must question why this nakedly, self-serving bull that would be laughed out of any self-respecting sociology faculty is being published in a family law journal, hardly peer-review, or independent since McIntosh co-authors & edits every article"

And Legal opinion
"Limited, Flawed Study does little to back up the conclusions the Association drew"

Editor: Samba avoids presenting argument in the main discussion and simply backdoor reposts the same nonsense in new threads. Please delete.
kalimnadancer said
How do you join the SRL resources group please?
The best idea is to go to Welcome srl-resources.org - Hostmonster.com
This is a non gender site, it is not a Fathers Rights, Mothers Rights or Grandparents Rights site - its purpose is to help you navigate through the sometimes complicated and traumatic processes of the Family Courts of Australia. This is not a venting site - its purpose is to provide you with the tools and assistance for your Court journey. This site is non-political - we deal with 'hear and now' issues and not what the Family Law Act may contain in the future.
Click on the top left "JOIN" button. Then if you are accepted you will be contacted. I think you might take moses advice and contact the Oval Office.  :thumbs:

Moses look at what Fairgo said. Definitely teach bubs to swim by taking him to swimming lessons. These are well organised in Australia and one thing  for sure the gift of swimming lessons for bub will be one of the most precious gifts you can provide. Get in the water with bubs and the other mums.. Australia is a country of water and swimming is an essential learning for all bubs.

You say you can't go far in two hours. Australia is a large country. You should not need to travel far for quality time with bubs. Parks, wildlife parks, zoo, aquarium, parks, find other friends to play. Call the Federal Director SPCA in WA and ask for advice on what to do. Call Centrelink or LifeLine and ask their call centres to speak to someone in WA near you and ask them for advice on what they would suggest. Australians are a friendly bunch and it should not take long to find friends.

Let me say on behalf of our site members welcome to Australia and welcome to the site here. You already have friends.

 






Executive Secretary - Shared Parenting Council of Australia
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Secretary SPCA said
Joining the SRL -Resources group is almost an impossibility . I have been waiting for about two and a half years to even get a response to a joining request.
Slight error here, almost two and a half years equals 30 months, it is actually 20 months and you know full well that you did not meet the criteria. No case about to run, no case running and no case recently concluded.
 
Secretary SPCA said
Its probably time we provided some of the good core information to the public section of the site I suspect. Have you any other ideas?
SRL-R did provide substantial amendments to FLWG for our section of this site over 2 years ago. These amendments did include two PowerPoint presentations which also included a smaller version of the starter kit.

SRL-Resources. the Family Law People on this site (look for the Avatars) www.srl-resources.org  Non gender Professional and peer support for SRLs. Closed site, no public forums, no search engines, no lurkers, guests or the other side and their Lawyer and Friends.
I did not think the SRL site was still in operation or is there more than one site?
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