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Hi there

I have a question regarding mediation, Yesterday my ex partner and I attended mediation at a recognised centre. We had a shuttle mediation which lasted about 3 hours and we managed to agree on the parent plan but that was it. We didn't get to cover any of the other issues relating to the children which I felt were important. From the start I felt there was pressure to hurry up and solve this as they had more clients so they were working on a time frame. At the very end I definately felt pressured into reaching an agreement and now that I have had 24 hrs to think about it I have some regrets. It was agreed that we would review the situation in 2 months time.  My question is if for some reason the agreement isn't working in part is there anything I can do about it, or do I just have to put up with it until the review date.? Has anyone else ever felt pressured into agreeing to something only to wish they'd had more time?.  I think a good idea with regards to mediation might be to give each person a coolong off period of say 24 - 48 hrs during which time they clould think with more clarity instead of making a decision they may later regret.
Just one more question, if either party has been found not adhering to any part of the agreement is the other party within their rights to say that they will end the agreement and return to mediation a soon as possible

Thankyou for any advice
I note that you had shuttle mediation - is there a reason for this? If it is because you felt overwhelmed or intimidated by your partner (power imbalance), that could explain your feelings about the mediation.

It is relatively normal that some 'pressure' is applied, especially if the mediator thinks there is a chance of reaching some agreements. It can be the more cooperative partner that feels the greatest pressure to give ground.

You can write/email the other side, informing them that you felt pressured by the mediator and no longer wish to pursue what you agreed to. If the agreement is something along the lines of: mother has child 70% of the time and the father has the child 30%, this will become the starting point of any change. If you are the mother and want the father to have less time, you will have a difficult time of it, unless it clearly does not work. Conversely, the father has 70/30 as a starting point to argue for more. It all depends what you have agreed to and where you stand.

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