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I was wanting to know what some of you mum's and dad's do to help you cope with missing your child?

I have been reduced to sniffing baby wipes because they remind me of my baby. I take them everywhere with me.

Any advice please?
You will need to provide some background. Has the baby died? OR is the baby away on contact overnight with your partner? Some mums can't cope with even a few hours separation.

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Gosh no he hasn't died!
My son is 4 and is with his father at the moment. I only see him Saturday 9-5pm and Wednesday 6pm-8pm. Up unitl our separation I was his primary carer which was about a year ago now. Since January, I have not been able to sing him to sleep, wake up to his smiling little blue eyes. :( just really struggling to cope I guess and was hoping I could get some advice on how to get through.
Iamnotanna said
Gosh no he hasn't died!
My son is 4 and is with his father at the moment. I only see him Saturday 9-5pm and Wednesday 6pm-8pm. Up unitl our separation I was his primary carer which was about a year ago now. Since January, I have not been able to sing him to sleep, wake up to his smiling little blue eyes. :( just really struggling to cope I guess and was hoping I could get some advice on how to get through.
 
Hi, this forum is more about gaining legal advice and how the system works I think. I'm not sure how much help it'll be for you with your emotional grief regarding your son. However, there is a forum at stepfamilyzone that deals specifically with alternative families - mothers, father's, step parent's going through what your going through. It's not the forums original purpose but it seems to have evolved that way. The people there are very, very supportive and their advice is very empowering.
Yes you are right 'Guest'. I guess the whole separation, court custody thing gets the better of you sometimes.
A moment of weakness.
I will most certainly take a look at the forum you have suggested.
Thank you.
Thanks to guest for that post. The issue for us here is not so much the emotional issues because we don't offer much in that area but the legal issues and how we might assist in getting further contacts. You say that you only see him Saturday 9-5pm and Wednesday 6pm-8pm. That seems to me quite inadequate. Is there some activity or advice we might share that could help in some way toe extend that time.

When were orders made and in what court? Is there some graduated time period where additional contact will be ordered?

Once the child starts to attend school a number of "contact" opportunities will avail themselves and we can discuss those. Is the father not willing to give you more contact? Have you some thoughts about the sort of contact you should have, and are able to accommodate?

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i know this is a law forum but here we have a mother who is going through what 90% of separated fathers go through on an everyday basis.
re: iamnotanna this site is a wealth of information regarding care arrangements, links to support, and legal information that parents have shared in order to improve their chances of parenthood and how to deal with their "exes" and their children. maybe the fact your on this site it might help u in your situation as im sure its helped many fathers out there trying to be a dad as your trying to be a mum.
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