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gday,

it has been a while since i have been online with the forum. for most of recent years my case has been stable. The issue i have right now is the mother hasnt been taking our son to school in a timely manner (not punctual) and missed alot of school all together. last year he missed 40 days of school. I am of the mind the shared care regime should reverse ( i become the primary care giver and she gets 37% care) to improve school attendance and improve the care of our child.

I have school reports that have officially said the child would achieve much better if he was in school for the required time and truency is an issue in his grades.

he currently goes to a school which was half way between the 2 households which was a 15-20 min drive. the mother has since moved a further 4 kms and has asked to move his schooling to around the corner from her place (very convenient) before consent orders were made a child psychologist interviewed the mother and it was made officially clear that any moves she will still honour the school which is in fact in the order.

last year we had a legal conference in which she argued her case, i argued mine and we were both issued the certificates required to take each other to court.

basically im wondering how much bearing the truency issue will have in "rice and asplund" and furthermore the chances of a father getting primary care of a 7-8 year old son to make sure the child acheives well in school and gets the care he deserves.

there is no conflict these days however due to the issues at hand there has been heated e mails none the less.

any help or advice will be appreciated
adelaideD
If she has majority care and changing schools would solve the problem for the child, why not allow the change of school? 4km is hardly another State. I'm trying to work out what your care level is… Slightly over EOW plus some longer holiday time? How does such a move materially impact on your care?
This is not really a change of circumstances, more of one parent not fulfilling a child's needs. You really need material from DOCS who the school should  have reported the issue to. A visit from DOCS can have a profound positive effect on a parent that is doing the wrong thing by a child.
she has moved a further 4 km away. The school was half way between both households. The school change she is seeking is 5 mins from her house and will be 45 mins plus for me to pick the child up and drop him off the following morning. There are also developments where my son has now lost his bedroom and shares it with a 17 year old aunty. I have made my concerns very clear via e mail. I have since seen my lawyer. We will be headed to court soon. There is parental alienation issues at hand aswell which need addressing. Thanks for the replies i will no doubt try and update the followers of the thread.
thanks
Heated emails = conflict
Disagreements about school = conflict
Mentioning parental alienation in order to win your case = conflict
Knowing the ins and outs of your exes bedroom situation = causing conflict
Trying to gain full  custody because of truancy rather than addressing the issue with the school = creating conflict
"improve the care of our child" Not only nonsense.. its conflict

Not only is is conflict, its conflict YOU will be blamed for.  I hope you didn't end up going to court. Try talking to the school and each other to work on the problem together rather than blaming. Courts do not like blame, they like plans for the future to change the errors of the past

Nothing i say should be taken as legal advice. I am not a Lawyer. If i help you it is of your own free choice to listen to what i say or not. I do not create documents for you. I do not represent you…. Purple Monkey Dishwasher
gday wolf

the heated e mails, are very clear derogatory comments of the father (me)
dissagrements about school, well the school has pleaded with me to pursue the legal route as the education dept is very slow
parental alienation, well i wont show you her affidavit but she is quite blatent in limiting my care and involvement (i currently have 134 days a year she wants me to have 26)
the living arrangements have changed again in which i will not disclose on here but they are still innapropriate in regard to gender and age differences.

we have been to court, there have been DV incidents in the other house since being served papers, there has been comprehensive school reporting and government depts are now involved including the police.

Im sorry you feel i will get blamed for this "wolf" but if i do not do something in regard to the childs well being I WILL be blamed for DOING NOTHING.
thanks.
You have mentioned nothing of DV, The Police, or any other kind of situation in your other posts. Of course that kind of involvement changes the situation. I can only comment on the facts presented to me at the time of writing. If you dont mention it, then how do we know?



 

Nothing i say should be taken as legal advice. I am not a Lawyer. If i help you it is of your own free choice to listen to what i say or not. I do not create documents for you. I do not represent you…. Purple Monkey Dishwasher
gday wolf,

my initial post may have been limited and vague in content as you must realise theres a good possibility the other party could also be on this site.

the DV and dept involvement have cone into play after the other party was served papers.

when you have school teachers pleading for you to do something and the school has backed you up with reporting although the truency issue might seem small and insignificant its becomes very important when a young childs emotional well being is noticed due to lateness and disengagement in class.

the court has taken this very seriously.

ive noticed you have seemed very forward in your posts (not just this thread) whats your story?
I have no story except I had a great deal of help from senior members of this site to achieve a set goal and now i try to help others with what i have learnt. I'm blunt because life is short.

Dont take anything for granted. I met a guy two weeks ago that had a letter from the school outlining intervention that they requested him to take in relation to his daughter. He ended up being blamed for causing the intervention  with every other weekend and lost parental responsibility. Nothing is certain, anything can happen.

 

Nothing i say should be taken as legal advice. I am not a Lawyer. If i help you it is of your own free choice to listen to what i say or not. I do not create documents for you. I do not represent you…. Purple Monkey Dishwasher
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