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Help please: Pre-mediation access difficulties

Issue: mother restricting access to child (approx 12 mnths old)

There are no court orders or parenting plan involved (mother refuses to discuss, I want shared custody).

Mediation with a counselling agency is scheduled for mid August (and who knows how much longer before our case gets to court - mothers oft stated intention)

I am allowed regular access to my child (2 hr visits @ her place, 2 - 4 times per week) provided I don't upset mum.  Upsetting mum means "requesting we discuss a parenting plan".

 Unfortunately, every time mum becomes upset my access is severely restricted or cancelled.  Earlier this year it was 10 weeks between visits, currently it will be 2 weeks+ due to mum going away and cancelling tonight's visit (she is "upset"!).

For both mine and my child's sake, I want to put an end to this access charade as soon as possible, however, turning to a lawyer is not really an option due to financial constraints and Legal Aid is probably not an option because we need to try mediation first - scheduled for mid August.  Does anyone have any suggestions?

anotherday said
Issue: mother restricting access to child (approx 12 mnths old)
For both mine and my child's sake, I want to put an end to this access charade as soon as possible, however, turning to a lawyer is not really an option due to financial constraints and Legal Aid is probably not an option because we need to try mediation first - scheduled for mid August.  Does anyone have any suggestions?
  First suggestion is to spend some time looking around this site. You will not only find forums on self representation but also SRLR, an organisation that helps with self representation.
Thank you Conan.  I have already spent considerable time browsing the forum and will continue to do so, but was still somewhat lost as to what to do.   I will also look into SRLR as you have suggested.
My suggestion would be to pay for some private mediation, rather than wait months for your free 4 hours.

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anotherday said
I am allowed regular access to my child (2 hr visits @ her place, 2 - 4 times per week) provided I don't upset mum.  Upsetting mum means "requesting we discuss a parenting plan".

 

 

I believe the best thing right now is to enjoy the 2 hrs 2-4 times weekly and NOT discuss a parenting plan until you are in mediation. If discussing such things is antagonistic and gets in the way of enjoying time with you child, drop the subject until it is an appropriate time and place.

I agree that it is unfortunate that the FDR is so far away, but as Artemis helpfully suggests, the FRC is not the only option. All approved providers can be found on the AG's web site. Sorry I don't have time this minute to put up a link, I'll try later if it helps.
Artemis and Testing-one-two, thank you for your replys. :thumbs:  Unsurprisingly, I agree with all your comments - the mediation hurdle is my current problem (taking the time to annotate the problem has also clarified the issue).  By AG website I assume you mean Austalian Government?  I will have a look for an approved provider and hopefully get this issue sorted.
Attorney General. Try this link for accredited service providers.

http://www.ag.gov.au/www/agd/agd.nsf/Page/Families_FamilyRelationshipServicesOverviewofPrograms_FamilyRelationshipServicesOverviewofPrograms
Thanks Testing-one-two.  I wasn't too far out! :$
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