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I have received another barrel of abuse comments from my ex about children not attending court ordered events, this was either due to him and other parties not giving me information which I can deal with myself but over a few days other events were due to me suffering a miscarriage, being in hospital for it and then recovery. A few people who god knows how they know have told him I was in hospital but not what for, do I have to answer him on why i was in hospital?

I don't want to tell him, this is my personal pain and I do believe he will find every way to inflict pain on me and prolong the grieving period which is hard enough as it was planned and very much wanted pregnancy. please be kind in responses i've rewritten this 4 times till I was comfortable with it being still so raw. TIA
I would use the phrase " to resolve a gynaecological issue" if asked why you were in hospital. If you are pressed for specifics, I would continue to say you are not comfortable in discussing this as it is a private matter.

Have your discharge papers, or some other documentation ready to hand up. There is no real need to know the nature of the stay, just that you had a legitimate reason for being there.

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I suppose it's a matter of it's so distressing personally I couldn't think of anything else but that is a good one I doubt anymore questions would be asked. I did get discharge 'notice' and a medical certificate just incase but I felt like he had no right to ask.
Thanks so much artemis.
You're welcome.

Everyone finds it hard to focus when they are feeling emotional.

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Another example of how valuable this site and the people that contribute are. The reply from Artemis has not only helped faith, but hopefully others that may venture here.
I wish you well faith and again I thank those that are helping my son and me.

"I don't have tomorrow's grace yet, and I won't need it until tomorrow! We must not be so overly occupied with the future that we lose today. God has hidden the future, so we might trust Him. He is compassionate in doing so. Why waste the present trying to change something you cannot change?



Extract from "Deceived By God" author John S. Feinberg :thumbs:
I would say that you do not have to discuss the reason why you were in hospital at all and it is acceptable that if you are in hospital that children can not meet these events.

It's important that the other parent is kept up to speed with things concerning the children but there is no need to know each others personal business and it could be assumed this is a type of control.

Providing you are making the best efforts to meet the arrangements then you have done your part.

This is very personal to you and your partner it should be your decision who to tell and when.

Best of luck.
Faith,

You will find that even on a medical certificate due to privacy a doctor does not disclose the reason why you were hospitalised or unfit for work etc, our doctor simply writes 'medical condition'. That is all the information you should have to provide.
The court will be more concerned about your health once you have handed up any document. All you need to do is advise the Registrar that you have had some personal medical issues that have needed treatment and that you can provide the appropriate documents. Work out with them new dates and follow the revised process.

There is no need to go into great detail as that is a private matter. Already well stated here and you have been given sound advice already. 

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Afternoon all

Bugger me….Sounds like this bloke isnt in it for the kids! Best wishes to you faith

gul

It's important that the other parent is kept up to speed with things concerning the children but there is no need to know each others personal business and it could be assumed this is a type of control

gul khan
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