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Hi I am just wondering do both parents need to provide a bedroom for their child at their home? My childs other parent sleeps in a lounge room and the housemates have the bedrooms (it is his house but he wanted a unit with spa/pool/gym so sacrificed bedrooms) so she shares the lounge room with her other parent as a bedroom. I though it was just for a while but it is a long term thing. She is getting uncomfortable as she is coming to an age where she likes privacy to change etc and there are only males in the home.

I just feel like as a parent he should be more concerned with providing space for her then having a gym/pool etc. I have spoken to him about it but he said he refuses to live in an average unit. He had her sleeping in the same bed as he didnt even want to provide an extra mattress but she complained a lot and now has a mattress.
I had a quick search and pulled up a lot of forum responses about this topic. Have you used the advanced forum search options or any of the search functions? There are two Search facilities on the site. The Forum search is in this link … It would be expected that there is some privacy and would assume there is a bathroom. If the contact is very regular and its becoming a problem perhaps one of the "housemates" might be moving out soon to allow such accommodation as is appropriate for the age. 

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How old is the child?
Hi thanks for reply :) Yes there is a bathroom in the unit. A housemate has now moved out so daughter and dad share that bedroom. Daughter is 10.
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Hi thanks for reply :) Yes there is a bathroom in the unit. A housemate has now moved out so daughter and dad share that bedroom. Daughter is 10.

For me 10 year old girl and Dad in the same room is too old  for sure. Sleeping in the same bed is really a social no no in the 21st century too, Id say it was wrong. Children need their own beds at least and privacy as they get older for all kinds of reasons.

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The Wolf raises an important issue that I regularly come across and that is sleeping arrangements. I  hear of numerous situations where children come in to sleep with or won't go to sleep unless in dads bed.  I caution this type of activity lest there are allegations made. Conversely I hear that children sleep in mums bed until quite a lot older than would usually be the situation.

It is one thing to have the kids in bed for a short time versus sleeping all night and then this becomes a habit that cannot easily be broken.

Some extreme examples of where this has become a problem are where mum has the children for a contact weekend (Fri and Sat) and they spend the whole weekend in the mother's bedroom, 7yo boy won't go to sleep without sleeping in fathers bed on all contacts, father digitally penetrates 3yo daughter (by mistake is the excuse) when child sleeping in parents bed (both parents together at that time).

Separate sleeping arrangements are a must as early as possible. A 10y girl will not want to be spending all night with her father in the same room. This situation should be addressed as quickly as possible. The father can take the pulldown couch bed in the lounge.. can't he?

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