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hi, i live in brisbane and i am at the very beggining, yes i know , the start. Iv been seperated for 18 months and had no orders in place to see my son, now trouble has risen and i think i need a consent order as she has cut acess of completly. Had him every 2nd weekend and saw him all during the week and even off weekends things were pretty amicable, now have not seen him for 18 days and no end in sight. What is the very first steps, after asking to see him and being told no ? pls help
First things first, have you been to see a solicitor yet?  If not, then go along and get some advice.

The first step is to invite the ex to mediation at a FDRC to work out these issues and hopefully work out your own consent orders.  However, if she refuses to attend, which won't look good for her, you will then be given a certificate that will allow you to initiate court proceedings.

Remember, your child is the one here with all the rights, not you or your ex, and your child has the right to know and be cared for by both parents.

Good luck, just remember, you are not powerless and your ex does not hold all the cards.
adamgraham101 said
hi, i live in brisbane and i am at the very beggining, yes i know , the start. Iv been seperated for 18 months and had no orders in place to see my son, now trouble has risen and i think i need a consent order as she has cut acess of completly. Had him every 2nd weekend and saw him all during the week and even off weekends things were pretty amicable, now have not seen him for 18 days and no end in sight. What is the very first steps, after asking to see him and being told no ? pls help

You need to get the Family Dispute Resolution process started ASAP. With any luck a skilled mediator might be able to sort out the situation.

Jennifer Rimmer, an ex Federal Magistrate, is a registered FDR practitioner who I could recommend who is located in Brisbane. I've talk to her at length and I like where she's coming from. She obviously has tonnes of experience in children's matters.

Link to her contact details:

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Jennifer Rimmer Mediation

4MYDAUGHTER
adam -if you are rich then follow smurf's and 4MD's advice - if not then contact your local Family Relationship Centre and make an appointment. You should write the ex a letter outlining the issues and what you hope to achieve with mediation. If you cannot work it out and put consent orders together them you will have to go to court and get some interim and probably final orders.
Do lots of reading on here and go to your local family court and watch how people represent themselves.
Fairgo said
adam -if you are rich then follow smurf's and 4MD's advice - if not then contact your local Family Relationship Centre and make an appointment.

I believe you get the results you pay for. I'm not sure if government assisted FRC's are motivated nor have the best skills to achieve successful mediation outcomes.

I'd spend my first $500-$1000 on a skilled FDR practitioner rather than a solicitor.

4MYDAUGHTER
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