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Moving interstate soon. Ex wife doesn't want daughter to go interstate until she is at least 10. I would think that my daughter has the right to visit me in Vic in a stable, happy environment, where there is much to do. What are the usual outcomes of thes

I'm living and working in Tassie at the moment and in the next couple of months will be moving to Vic to live with my partner, but doing the fly in/ fly out thing to work in Tassie still. This would enable me see my 7 y.o daughter. During the school holidays, I was hoping that my daughter would be able to fly back with me from Tas and stay in Vic for the week, and then I bring her back to Tas. The thing is, my ex wife doesn't want her to go interstate until she is at least 10. She has more or less challenged me to go to court and fight her wishes. I would think that my daughter has the right to visit me in Vic in a stable, happy environment, where there is much to do. What are the usual outcomes of these sorts of cases where a father chooses to move interstate?
         interstate contact can be stopped by the courts or by agreement, however I doubt that simply that reason alone would be sufficient. What I would suggest is that you go along the court route. The route depends very much upon where you are now. If you have no court orders in place, then the starting point will be mediation as you cannot apply for court orders unless you have the certificate to say you have tried mediation. Mediation could result in acceptable parenting plans. You can get 3 hours free at a Family Relationship Centre. The next stage would then be to apply for orders which often results in an out of court settlement and court orders being approved. It's the rare cases that actually go to court.

However if you already have orders then there is a big hurdle in that you have to overcome the Rice and Asplund judgement which requires a sound reason to re-enter the  system.

Personally what you are asking for appears to be reasonable. My son flies for all visits, although within state one weekend per month and half of the school holidays, his flight takes an hour. I think your flights would take just a little more so I can see little reason why you could not have the same perhaps even more.

What I'd suggest is that you become a member of this site and then look to joining the SRL-R group. They are people who very kindly guide people in helping themselves self-represent. They would expect you to do a lot of the work yourself, which is a lot of work.

I'm not sure of the usual outcomes, but I'm quite sure you have a very good chance and in my opinion for one sentence, where you say your daughter has the right, rather than that you should be allowed to see your daughter, perhaps a better than usual chance, as it shows you are thinking along the lines of your daughter's interest rather than yours and that counts a lot.

Oh my son was 8 when he started flying and he has always flown unaccompanied, he's now 10 coming up for 11.

One general money saving tip, at least for Qantas anyway. You will often be told that you have to book tickets over the phone for unaccompanied child flights and be slammed with the booking fee. I have never done this, I have always brought the tickets online and then phoned up and arranged the unaccompanied side. You get the odd staff member saying that you can't, however the "I'm been doing this so long and this is how customer service told me to do it when I phoned them" has worked for me every such time (must admit that the mother had this problem, in the end I phoned up and got the staff member to phone her after explaining, as only the person booking the tickets can do that stuff. Since then I book all the tickets. This arrangement has the advantage of reducing the awkward moments and in my case got rid of the far too usual requests for him to be taken back early (We used to drive the 500km alternately, every other month and at the end of the week and 3 three week contact the mother would drive here and back, otherwise I'd drive there and back, staying in a motel).
Considering that children can travel unaccompanied from the age of 5, your ex has little argument.

My two children travelled on their own recently (both under 11) and they were fine. My ex was not happy, I had to arrange transport to his house from the airport as he refused to pick them up (long story) but there is little she can do legally.

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My view is that if you have an Order, or even a Parenting Plan providing for set holidays, (ie 1/2 each school holiday) you can go where you like within Australia. There is no magic about State borders in a Federal system. You should as a matter of courtesy say where you are going, but you do not need specific consent.
Overseas is a different issue.
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