Dad lost his job, the pressure from her was too much.All he wanted was to have access to his two boys. He couldn't move as youngest couldn't cope then Ex Partner moves three hours away. Back arrears of child support are extensive.
I have been his partner for 6.
He went through a period where his ex put him through emotional hell & as a result he couldn't work. He lost his job, the pressure from her was too much.All he wanted was to have access to his two boys. We shared all responsibilities with her, they were 10 minutes away, so we made sure she could relax & the boys would be picked up, dropped off, fed, etc, & whenever she needed a break we were a phone call & 5 minutes away. No problem.
SXXXXXX(Name) always paid CS, & at first they had a private agreement, it all went well until the mind games began..she didn't want to see us doing okay so she started to play very emotional & manipulative tricks with us. So much that SXXXXX had a nervous breakkdown & as a result he lost his job.
He stayed on the dole for 8 months while I worked & eventually took out two credit cards to keep our heads above the mud. SXXXXX got a great job & was offered a fantastic opporunity to move to rural Victoria with a house, car, & career. The 11th hour came & the ex told us that the youngest, Tyler, couldn't handle this, he was having nightmares, he needed his dad. We scrapped the plans…the children camefirst.
All the while we are paying CS and being there day & night for those two boys.6 months we get a phone call telling us that she & the boys would b moving to Healsville three hours away!!!! She is in love & isn't that great?
We haven't heard about any more problems since. SXXXXX is a pain in the rear & she will never admit if things aren'tokay we only hear from the kids.
The thing is she doesn't need SXXXX emotionally any more because her new man is everything she could have ever wished for but she's happy to take the money.We haven't had her whinge pooronce since she whisked them away. SXXXXX only knew of the the move when she rang hin while the van was in her driveway…coward…
Now CSA is saying he owes $15,000 in back pay plus Txxxxx expenses.. BXX has turned 18 & is working. A total of 180 per week.. & we aren't entitled to a life?
This is truly going to break us, both emotionally & realistically. What can we do?
I fail to understand that a stretch on the dole can rack up a debt of that much which has now accumulated to $15000 plus pay the most he has ever payed for his children ever. It affects me as well, this means i have no quality of life, my partner, SXXXXX will now sink into a huge unhealthy spiral & we will never get ahead in life regardless of how hard we work.
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