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I have been seperated from my ex-wife for about 8 years and have been trying to get my daughters to live with me more than the 35% my ex-wife will allow at present.  We have attended mediation where she refused to allow me to have them more.  I do not wish to go to court, but fear it is my only option.  In the event that this is my only option, what do I have to do and what can I expect.  I just want to be able to have a 50/50 arrangement so that our girls are cared for evenly. 
Cliffo55 you say you went to mediation.  Did you get a certificate?  Except in a handful of circumstances a mediation certificte is required to initiate a Part VII application for children's Orders.  

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cliffo55 said
I have been seperated from my ex-wife for about 8 years and have been trying to get my daughters to live with me more than the 35% my ex-wife will allow at present. We have attended mediation where she refused to allow me to have them more. I do not wish to go to court, but fear it is my only option.

If you cannot agree in mediation then Court is your only option.

If you have existing orders you may need to demonstrate a Change of Circumstances (see the Rice & Asplund forums on this site)

Even if you do not have orders you would have to demonstrate why changing a long standing arrangement is in the Children's best interests

cliffo55 said
I just want to be able to have a 50/50 arrangement so that our girls are cared for evenly.

The question is why after such a period of time? That is the argument you would have to prove to the Court.


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Cliffo55,
            why do you not wish to go to court? If the cost is a worry, then if you are willing to put in the work, then you may be able to self-represent at very little cost in comparison to being represented. You have come to a place where you may be able to reap the rewards of the knowledge some very experienced people who could help you help yourself self-represent.

What age are your children? What do they feel about the matter? Perhaps explain why you are now seeking the extra time with the children.

Note! Read this post in conjunction with what Agog has said.
My girls are 9 and 10.  I have had many different jobs since we seperated and this has made it hard to have my girls more.  Now I am remarried with a career that could facilitate more time with them.  Cost may be a factor when going to court, however I would be willing to put in the time to self represent.
Agog,
        would the new stability be a potential for getting past R & A?

Clifo55,
          I'd suggest that you look at the SRL-Resource section in the Community area. Click on community at the top and then on SRL-Resource on the left. Do the quiz and have a good look around.
you can try to solve your problem with mediation. civil manner is best for your problem.
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