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Is moving to a new area always "relocating"?

Hi all :)

We were informed today that the place we are renting is to be sold, so moving is a high possibility. Unfortunately we cannot afford another place in our area so will need to look outside our current location.

Here's where it gets tricky (like anything isn't!): at interim orders stage there was a km restriction from a specific geographic location where the children could live. Now that things are subject to final orders, there is no km restriction. There are several suburbs still within that km restriction where we can afford to live, but they will involve more travel, and therefore effort, by all parties.

So if we observe the now non-existent restriction could my children's father still claim we are relocating the children? There would be no change to his time with the children.

Obviously a move would bring a change in schools and I would ask for my ex's input in this.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

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Bill Cosby
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I remember reading something last year that discussed the "grey area" of relocation and the need to provide a more limited definition in the Act (a set distance) so that parents would have a better understanding of their obligations in relation to residential moves.  The view was that a defined distance would predictably lead to less confusion and a reduced number of parenting disputes in this regard.  I remember also thinking how stupid the author was as IMO the suggestion that implementing a set distance was the answer to all problems implied that all geographic locations were similar and that travel time between the point of origin and two different points of a similar length would be roughly the same.    

You have asked about relocation and mentioned that moving to certain areas would have no affect on the time the father currently spends with the children.  I think that the bigger issue here is that any move resulting in a change of school and/or current "social networks" of the children could predictably interfere with the other parents ability to be involved with the child/ren's schooling, extra curricular etc (depending on where the other parent lives of course).

I think that consulting the father (as you intend to do) prior to making any decisions is an excellent idea.  

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Thanks for replying CrazyWorld :)

Absolutely agree with you that an arbitrary defined distance is not workable for all situations - in fact there are areas closer to my children's father that would make it very difficult for him to spend time with the children.

You have asked about relocation and mentioned that moving to certain areas would have no affect on the time the father currently spends with the children. I think that the bigger issue here is that any move resulting in a change of school and/or current "social networks" of the children could predictably interfere with the other parents ability to be involved with the child/ren's schooling, extra curricular etc (depending on where the other parent lives of course).

I think that consulting the father (as you intend to do) prior to making any decisions is an excellent idea.

This is what I find frustrating about shared parental responsibility: You can't make them participate!

My ex has chosen NOT to involve himself in the children's schooling, and in fact has never contacted the school despite the children having been there for several years. With one approaching high school the most he will discuss it is to mention one high school he does not like, and to state that it was my job to worry about that. Yeah, thanks!

As for extra curricular activities, well, I do have to give him credit for finally becoming involved to a small degree. It's a start  O_o I cannot see him becoming more involved wherever we end up living though.

"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it."
Bill Cosby
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