A few weeks ago I emailed her with my proposal for a parenting plan and asked for her to reply, letting me know if she agreed to it or not, so I could have it written up for the both of us to sign. I was very patient in waiting a few weeks for a response, but got nothing so I emailed again yesterday telling her I need a response.
Tonight I called her about a separate issue, but also mentioned to her in conversation that I needed a response to my emails. She told me that she's happy with the plan that I proposed but she won't sign anything. She is just being difficult, and wants me to have to fork out money to take this through court. She even laughs about the fact that it is going to cost me money to take this through court.
Well anyway I asked her why she won't sign anything and she simply said that she has been advised not to sign anything. Apparently her dad advised her this. He is not a lawyer nor does he have any legal background. But, my ex listened to him.
This is VERY frustrating! I have done nothing but be patient and compromising with her, but she still does everything she can to make the situation difficult for everyone involved.
I don't want this to go to court. I can't afford those costs. I'm wondering if there's any way to have our plan recognised, since she does agree to it verbally, but refuses to sign anything. I understand that a parenting plan is not enforceable by law, but I just want it for my own piece of mind. Would a diary recording all of my visits with the kids and conversations with my ex have the same grounds in court (if it were to go to court at a later date) as a signed and dated parenting plan?
If anyone can give me any sort of help I would be very very appreciative! Maybe even a suggestion as to how I could persuade her to sign the simple plan.
I wish there was a free service that determined a simple parenting plan for separated parents, just like CSA determines how much child support we have to pay. It's not fair that we have to fork out so much money because the other parent is simply uncooperative. It just adds so much stress.
Anyway thanks for reading and any help will be VERY MUCH appreciated!