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Family Report Interview Process

My thoughts on the Family Report Interview process ?

As I read your post (since removed by the original poster) my heart goes out to you and yours but the predominant message I see is the fact you have told the truth and have done your best. Personally I believe you have done what any parent that truly has the best interests of the child would do. I am, too, amazed that some of the professionals appear to lean entirely in one direction even before they have observed both sides.

I will not turn the focus from your case entirely onto my own but I will share why I understand so clearly what you are saying, if I may.

Last week my son, his ex and Little Miss had an interview with the court appointed psychologist to prepare a report for final hearing, which is drawing near, and she was instructed by the FM not to read my sons affidavit because Mum had not submitted her response. Mum has contravened court orders but the psychologist said perhaps the time she spent interstate was just a holiday. Subpoenas will prove Mum lived and worked interstate. In brief the psychologist told Dad not to bother taking his case to final hearing in the same breath admitting how hard the situation is.

Like you, at the end of the day my son will know he has done his best but one has to wonder lies and tears over rule why total honesty.

And perhaps this maybe deemed in appropriate but I would like to share this extract from a book I have just finished reading. I do hope things work out for you.

I dont have tomorrows grace yet, and I wont need it until tomorrow! We must not be so overly occupied with the future that we lose today. God has hidden the future, so we might trust Him. He is compassionate in doing so. Why waste the present trying to change something you cannot change?

Extract from Deceived By God author John S. Feinberg

 :thumbs:

"I don't have tomorrow's grace yet, and I won't need it until tomorrow! We must not be so overly occupied with the future that we lose today. God has hidden the future, so we might trust Him. He is compassionate in doing so. Why waste the present trying to change something you cannot change?



Extract from "Deceived By God" author John S. Feinberg :thumbs:
I would be very interested how your report is written after this.

I too recently had a meeting where he observed myself and the ex with the child for about 3 minutes each. He then spent 10 minutes with me during which time he also said he doesn't read the affidavits. I don't know if this is protocol or an excuse for lack of time???

He then informed me of the ex's issues and concerns with me and after discussion agreed that it was not me doing anything wrong and that it was issuse she had, all from the past, and she needed to deal with. However, he said, even though he agrees they are clearly just perceived by her and not real he still has to take them into account and has to consider the effect on HER any decisions made about the living arrangements of the child. I was going to ask him to read the new Ammended Act to make the point about "best interests of the child" but I thought I would play it safe.

As yourself I think I may have made a mistake by indicating that I was reasonable and open to other proposals where she was set in her ideas. It may be that he is trying to take the easy way out and from experience knows that a stubborn mother can not be moved where as a reasonable father can be pushed around a bit more. I told him I was flexible but never to the detriment of the child. However this is the system we are dealing with and it seems that some people, particularly those who have been in the business before the changes to the Act, still have a prehistoric mindset.

I should get report in the next few days so it will be interesting to see how mother centric the report is.

"When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside can not hurt you"
Monster said
He said father is clearly loving and caring parent. His feedback that was that the mother needed physcological counciling. I was shocked that he gace feedback at the conclusion of his observations.

Could this however be him observing your reactions to agreement with the perceptions he has gained from talking to you?
Thanks Monster, it was just the skeptic and curious in me coming out. Hopefully what you saw was what was and if so then it really is pretty good news.
Thought I would share the family report I received. It is what is called an issues report and it is only 3 pages long. It only identifies issues and makes very general summaries. He makes very few assertions other than his observations of the child/parent interaction and most is based on he said/she said, hence how the "issuses" are raised. There were a few mistakes and he has incorrectly contextualised on some points which will have to be clarified.

It was overall very favourable and I was impressed that he did focus on the childs needs, although he could not help himself with a notable bias and even refered to the mother as primary caregiver and father as secondary attachment! Old habits I guess.

These are obviously written for the Judge/Registrar as they are in some form of code. Most of what he is trying to say is between the lines so I have to read carefully to try and interpret it.

"When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside can not hurt you"

Examples of Family Reports

Someone has provided anonymous versions of Family Reports on another page on this site.

To see what Family Reports look like, or to compare yours with these ones, have a look at those provided (as PDFs) on the Family Report Examples page.

http://flwg.com.au/forum/index.php?page=topicview&id=3059
Hi Monster

$8000 is a lot of money. Was this the combined total? What was included – eg did he do the MMPI-2 or any other tests, any home visits, include collateral contacts, multiple interviews over time? Was it your choice to use a forensic psychiatrist rather than psychologist/social worker or was it court ordered?

It seems the higher qualified the reporter the more creditability they have in court. From my reading of judgements the psychiatrists are always convincing performers. I just didn’t know they did family reports. Hope it pays off
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