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Rally in front of the Family Courts

I would like to flag the idea of an Equal Parenting Day for which we rally outside Family Courts.

It could be held during a lunch hour around December 20th each year. It is important to be on a weekday so that not only are Family Court staff present, but the media are available to cover the story (weekends usually have skeleton staffing). It would be school holidays so some of us could have our kids with us.

I know some Dads' Groups have been against activism of this kind. I suspect other people believe that it is not a good idea because we may not get the numbers and then it would look weak.

There is another argument that we can be more productive "whiteanting" - ie quietly lobbying from witihin, than overt demonstrations which can arouse the sleeping dog and get the radical feminists to step up a gear.

A further argument is that if we look like a bunch of angry (ugly) dads, we might lose support.

I would like to hear what other people think about this idea. I think the rally can be really positive. We can be happy and creative. We can have lots of poignant banners. We can have street theatre. We can get a lot of media attention.

At the moment a Presumption of Equal Parenting Time is not on the media or political agenda. Rad fems prefer it that way becasue they know our arguments (ie "WHY NOT ?") are strong. This would be a good way to get our case onto the political and media agenda. If we have an Equal Parenting Day at the same time each year, we can prepare for it all year long.

Cheers, Geoff


Coordinator, Equal Parenting Movement

Co-director, Fathers4Equality

Why not?

Interesting idea - it worked for Ghandi and Martin Luther King. Could be a bad move if it attracts the wrong crowd. As long as there are no superman or spiderman costumes!

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Equal Parenting Day Rally - Gandhi etc

Thanks Monteverde,

Sure did work for Gandhi and Martin Luther.  Great way to bring new people into the movement.

Yes I think we should prepare well in advance (ie start planning now) so we get it right.

As a matter of interest, is it something you would go along to ?

Geoff




Coordinator, Equal Parenting Movement

Co-director, Fathers4Equality

Attack from with in; not from the front

Geoff,

I am very involved in federal and state politics with a major party. I know how they work behind the scenes and how they operate when it comes to contentious issues. They have political pressures that we can not see or understand unless we talk to them.

 Demonstrating is NOT the best way to get results! It might make us feel better for a day or two but it puts the politicians off side. There are a lot of people working behind the scenes to change the FLA 1975. They need to work with the boys and girls in Canberra, NOT against them. Thing are changing - it does take time but it is working.

Education of the media would be a better tactic; they are still some what biased against men.

Have you seen the film Amazing Grace? If not, go and see it! It will inspire you and show you how things are done.

Ghandi and Martin Luther King had no choice but to take the action they did. Both great men -  we can be great if we ALL work together.







We do not need a revolution, when we have evolution.


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monteverdi said
Have you seen the film Amazing Grace? If not, go and see it! It will inspire you and show you how things are done. Ghandi and Martin Luther King had no choice but to take the action they did. Both great men -  we can be great if we ALL work together.
Have you any more details? is it a DVD? available from? What is the main thrust of the movie? :)

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Amazing Grace

The film is currently at the cinema. It is about abolishing slavery in England. It shows the determination of an organisation and a strong individual (Wilberforce), working within the system to abolish slavery. We are in a form of slavery, are we not?

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A Rally does not have to a Protest Rally
It can be a Demonstration of the Way Things Are
It does not have to be Negative
It can be a show of Positive potentials
Because what we want at root is something positive
for our Children - is it not?
Monteverdi - I appreciate your point.  Rob, I also appreciate yours.

I suggest a festival type rally on a Sunday, followed by a protest rally on the Monday (lunchtime).

Father's Day is an interesting idea, but Father's Day could not be also Equal Parenting Day.  Maybe Equal Parenting Day could be held the Sunday prior to Father's Day.

Working behind the scenes is very important.  Public demonstrations are also very important.  But they need to be positive - good positive messages, lots of colour and smiling faces.  It is a PR strategy.

Politicians react to public pressure.  We need to get the general public more aware of the issues, get it on the agenda.  From my meeting with Philip Ruddock, I would say he sees a Presumption of Equal Parenting Time decades away if at all.

Also, "men's groups" have been demonised.  We need to show ourselves so that people can see we are just ordinary people, and as diverse as society itself.  We also need to show that many women and grandparents also support a Presumption of Equal Parenting Time.

Until someone can show me we are on the verge of a breakthrough, I will support the need for public festival rallies, as well as positive protest rallies.  The one in London a few years ago (2003 ?) with thousands of people and double-decker buses, huge banners and so on was immensely powerful and shifted the political centre of gravity I believe.

I have been fed this "don't worry - it's all being taken care of" nonsense from a number of directions but sorry, I don't buy it.  This is not to diminish the excellent lobbying work that has been achieved by SPCA and others over the last few years.

Cheers, Geoff


Coordinator, Equal Parenting Movement

Co-director, Fathers4Equality

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